Is it necessary to get closure from broken relationships? Whether it’s a horrible breakup with your long-term boyfriend, or cutting ties with anyone else in your life, you may feel the urge to seek some solace in one final talk, if you will.
You’ll likely want to address the situation with this person, possibly to find a resolution, or simply to beat a dead horse — whichever comes first.
I get it; I know the feeling all too well.
Closure brings comfort. It makes you feel as though justice got served. But, the reality is closure makes us feel like our final decision to cut ties was, indeed, the right thing to do.
Closure is confirmation.
When you gain closure, you feel confident you are moving in the right direction, allowing yourself to move forward on a new path.
But, there is a tough pill to swallow here: Closure might not ever come, and you shouldn’t expect it.
Once you end the relationship, your ex has no obligation, whatsoever, to supply the final words you so desire.
If that one last talk never comes, you shouldn’t try to force it, as doing so will likely make things worse. You might end up in a uglier situation than before the attempt.
Trying to force closure in a previous relationship made me seem like a crazy, desperate stalker. You definitely don’t want that unless you’re prepared to burn a bridge (or a village, depending on how aggressive you are at beating the dead horse), which is no bueno.
Keep your dignity and refrain from forcing.
[E.D]
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