Why No Matter How Much You Think You Do, You Never Really Know Anyone

We talk, we laugh, we cry, but do we know what goes on behind closed doors?

Behind the words, there might be complications, behind the laughter, there might be wistful smiles and behind the tears, there might be painful memories.

Thin walls separate one from millions and what’s on the other side creates all the confusion.

During an intent gaze, a curve on the lips, a crease on the forehead or a gesture of the hand, could there only be a single meaning behind each motion, or could it be a matter of a thousand?

The reasons make a mind, the mind combines with the soul and the combination creates a personality or the substance of a person.

You can never really know people because you can never really understand a personality, figure out the words behind the emotions or comprehend the perfections behind the imperfections.

It really isn’t possible to know someone just by talking or being with him or her.

Yes, you could be talking to your partner all the time before marriage, and you are certain that you know him, but are you 100 percent certain about your certainty?

Do you know if he puts the cap back on after using his toothpaste? Have you ever wondered what he would do if he spotted a beggar on the street? Do you know what he does if he wakes up in the middle of the night?

These are little things that are not really important, but when you think of it, one of these might just be a reason for your next argument. You just never know.

To be honest, as much as we make ourselves believe that we know people, we never actually do.

She closed her eyes and a teardrop fell. When asked what had happened, she would just say nothing. But, that “nothing” could mean everything.

He tilted his head up and laughed at the sky. When asked what was so funny, he would say nothing.

But, that could also mean every syllable in his mental conversation was way beyond his answer. People exist for a reason and reasons exist for people.

Individuals have different perspectives and different approaches. A masculine figure can exist as a father, a brother, a son, a husband or a friend.

Similarly, a feminine figure can exist as a mother, a sister, a daughter, a wife or a friend.

However, the most difficult equation of life exists here — an equation where the value of the unknown is infinite because we can never get to know people from all the angles they offer.

We realize later that we just knew them superficially when we found out the equations didn’t match.

We can never really know people, but we can understand certain people in our lives and based on that understanding, we create wonderful relationships that promise to last.

Ultimately, relationships break, not because you failed to know him or her, but because you failed to understand. Understand rather than know because the latter is within your capacity.

It’s not actually true that we realize the importance of certain people in our lives when they go away. The truth is we never imagine losing them until they make it reality.

Nevertheless, we should never stop them from leaving because if they choose to leave, it only means the roles they played in our individual stories are over.

Of course, new people will come in and fill holes made by the ones who left. On the canvas of life, we often go off color.

But, as long as there are special people to add the right shades, life goes on to be a rainbow.

Elitedaily

Love Is Passionate: If You’ve Never Fought, You’re Not Really In Love

Love drives people crazy. Or rather, the way most people interpret love drives them crazy. Relationships have their ups and downs — like every other bit of life.
Things always seem ideal in the beginning, but inevitably turn ugly at one point or another.
The person you love with all your heart becomes your verbal punching bag.

You let your emotions get the best of you and instead of doing your best to understand those emotions, you lash out at your partner — the one person who is supposed to love, care and support you.

The same person you’re supposed to love, care and support yourself. Arguments are commonplace in a relationship. In fact, if you’ve never fought when in a relationship, then you’ve never been in love.















(Elitedaily)

Hunch of finding a new one to share your life with

I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships lately. I’ve found they tend to be simple at their cores, but we complicate matters when we’re in them.
We’ve all experienced friends telling us complicated stories about things that are not right in their relationships, but in the same breath, they tell us how devastatingly in love their partner.
But, in the next breath, they tell us they’re not sure they’re meant to be together forever.
They tell us that though they love the person so much, they sometimes worry. They question their feelings.
They tell us story after story, some of which leave us believing that they’re meant to be, and several that leave us questioning why they ever got together in the first place.
When we recount these stories, we tend to think they’re simple. We tell others that they met at the wrong time or they’re just not right for each other at this very moment.
Perhaps, some day in the future, they’ll become the right people for one another. Just not now.
We tell people that they’re just too different, and from our perspective, this seems to be very clear. We can see where things unravel, why their fights last until dawn breaks and why each person is just too tired to keep things going.
Despite this perceived clarity, we watch them try. We see them struggle, fight after fight, with each tear as a painful reminder of another. -Elite.        

 And this is just another story of the one finding another one. After complicating such matters, they, them, we... I, just moved on. Continuing the life I would ever lived if a someone hasn't come to my life full of crossroads. Just like before, on going journey to the zigzag way is quite stressing and tiring. Until somebody, unexpectedly, and without of your concern joins your travel and gave you company.

Digging every single part and all of you. A new someone that is extremely way way way different to what we used to.

An another used to be.
A new, that has brought you a something new. A healer, and lover of your torned and pounded heart, a new that never brings back the memories but is creating a new and memorable ones. A new one to share your life with.

And you can say you fall in love again, you loved him.You have fall to that someone who enlightened the lamps of your dimmed heart.

I LOVED new, and I LOVE him.

How It’s Possible To Move On From A Relationship Without Closure

Is it necessary to get closure from broken relationships? Whether it’s a horrible breakup with your long-term boyfriend, or cutting ties with anyone else in your life, you may feel the urge to seek some solace in one final talk, if you will.

You’ll likely want to address the situation with this person, possibly to find a resolution, or simply to beat a dead horse — whichever comes first.

I get it; I know the feeling all too well.

Closure brings comfort. It makes you feel as though justice got served. But, the reality is closure makes us feel like our final decision to cut ties was, indeed, the right thing to do.

Closure is confirmation.

When you gain closure, you feel confident you are moving in the right direction, allowing yourself to move forward on a new path.

But, there is a tough pill to swallow here: Closure might not ever come, and you shouldn’t expect it.

Once you end the relationship, your ex has no obligation, whatsoever, to supply the final words you so desire.

If that one last talk never comes, you shouldn’t try to force it, as doing so will likely make things worse. You might end up in a uglier situation than before the attempt.

Trying to force closure in a previous relationship made me seem like a crazy, desperate stalker. You definitely don’t want that unless you’re prepared to burn a bridge (or a village, depending on how aggressive you are at beating the dead horse), which is no bueno.

Keep your dignity and refrain from forcing.

[E.D]

The Pain Of Being In Love With Someone You Can Never Be With

Love is a tricky thing. It varies in intensity and in the specificity of emotions. It is sometimes the most beautiful thing in the world and, at other times, it’s the most horrid thing we’ve ever come face-to-face with.
It’s odd how one thing could be the cause of so many contrary feelings. But that’s what makes love so beautiful – it’s the closest thing to perfection that exists in the world, the only thing that can easily and comfortably encompass both good and evil, beautiful and ugly.

It’s the closest thing to a flawless whole that man has ever claimed to have been part of.
When we think of love, we think of the happy kind of love, the kind that is the beginning of something beautiful – something that breathes life.

There is, however, another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. It’s the love one feels when one loves someone he or she can never and will never have.
It’s the kind of love that doesn’t signal the beginning of something beautiful, but rather the end of something that might have been beautiful, but will never amount to anything more than what it is.

Contrary to popular belief or popular wishful thinking, love doesn’t always end happily. It doesn’t always result in the joining of two people, the fusing of two lives into one.

Sometimes, on rare occasions, it results in the wedging apart of the two who love each other the most. You can love someone with all your soul and never get a chance to be with that person. Even worse, you can know that you love him or her, understanding there is no possibility that the two of you will ever be together.
Some people cannot and will not ever end up together, even if they do love each other. It’s a sad truth, but a truth, nonetheless.

The fact is, love is not enough. All those fairytales, all those stories and movies you’ve heard and watched growing up, lied to you. Love is never enough because love is not rational.
You hear that love is irrational all the time, yet you still hear the same people saying that love is enough to keep two people together.

Unfortunately, we live in a world governed by rationality, and while love may be irrational, and we may manage to make it work for some time, the real world always catches up with us and our irrational illusions dissipate into thin air.

Then we are left with reality and reality doesn’t always reason the way lovers do.
Some people don’t work out together. They have habits or beliefs that make it impossible to co-habitate with the person they love. There isn’t a couple out there that loves every little thing about one another.
Sure, they may find certain quirks cute or unique, but they don’t love them; they simply accept them. There are some people who have such habits, tendencies, or thinking patterns that really do make them incompatible with the other person.

The two may love each other fully, because remember, love isn’t rational, yet not be able to live and deal with each other forever. This is why relationships require compromise.

You’re not going to love everything about the person you are with, but you love enough about him or her to live with the things you don’t love. Not all people are willing to, or even able to, compromise. Sometimes it just doesn’t work, regardless of what our emotions tell us.

Compromising, of course, is a choice. You either choose to make it work or you choose not to. I believe this fully. As long as something doesn’t go against your nature, over time you can make it work. But there are still some cases when compromising isn’t enough.

Sometimes there are other reasons two people cannot and will not ever be together. In fact, this is usually the deciding factor of whether or not two lovers will be capable of spending their lives together: if they are able to forgive and forget.

Because love is as intense an emotion as one gets, it occasionally leads us to make poor choices – choices that are hurtful to the ones we love.

They may be poor calls of judgment, lies we told or things we said. When it comes to love, our pasts haunt us. We move from relationship to relationship, hauling all that luggage we managed to accumulate in our previous relationship.

Because lovers who can’t work together don’t like to accept this fact, they have a tendency of breaking up and getting back together repeatedly.

Each time they take a break from each other, they come back and try to start fresh. But the problem is, they’re still carrying all that luggage. And sooner or later, they start to unpack. All the demons come out.
When love scars, it cuts deep. The pain isn’t easily forgotten and usually cannot be willfully forgotten. When you hurt the woman you love enough, she won’t come back to you. And because you still love her, you wouldn’t take her back even if she asked you to.

You don’t trust yourself not to hurt her again and even if you did, she wouldn’t trust you not to hurt her again. Relationships are built on trust and you shattered her trust.
Chances are, you both have bruises that have never fully healed and likely will never fully heal. And that’s just something you decided that you’ll have to live with. Why?

Because you really don’t have any other options. You just hope that the two of you find others to love so you can think about each other less and so you don’t have to worry about her happiness anymore.
You wait in hopes that new love can take the place of the old — which it can. But that doesn’t mean you will ever stop loving each other. Some people will love each other until the day they die, spending the majority of their lives apart. And so is the darker side of love.-elitedaily.com





"sometimes, the darker side of love hurts us so much that it completely ruin the innermost of you. that it will come to the point that you will no longer think of yourself and your happiness. the pain that you never imagine that you'll get until this very day that you realized you were completely destroyed. and you are trying to get up, trying to pick up your self and start all over again."

MISCONCEPTIONS

   

We love giving out advice, but most of us don’t take it. We give, but never take. What’s up with that? Now, think about life. What if we had listened to a few that really did make sense (and right, for what it’s worth), would we be happier? Maybe — but isn’t life about making it yours? -thoughtcatalog.com

Today's life adventure was just like the any other ordinary days of my life. I had so much of school stuffs and pigging out. Its like a habitual day to day activity but then Ive realized that I'm starting to get fed up with my so thought and believed awesome life. A regular happening that I'll forget as the time goes by.

As we dvanced in years, life is getting more and more tangled and impenetrable. We misconcept things, gave advices and opinions that we thought's the best for everybody, we commit mistakes that we or will not regret in the future, but little did we know, these were just the perks of getting older.

We get assosiated with such situations that we infatuated the best, the greatest.

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                Sa madaling salita, nasasaktan ako ngayon. Lalo na yung taong pinagkatiwalaan ko ng sarili ko yung magiging dahilan pa para mabawasan ang respeto ko sa sarili ko. Yung kinapalan mo na nga ang mukha mo pati balat mo para mahalin siya sa kabila ng alam mong meron siyang iba pero wala pa rin. Nasan na yung talino ko? Ngayon nagiging corny na naman ako para sabihin na nakakabobo talaga mag mahal. Yung inalagaan at pinalaki ka ng mga magulang mo para gaguhin lang ng ibang tao. Naiiyak akong isipin bakit ako pumapayag lang sa ganito, ito ba talaga yung deserve ko? Bakit pumapayag ako na walang plano ang isang tao para sa akin, bakit pumapayag ako na nahihirapan ako sa bagay na alam ko naman sa umpisa pa lang na wala ng patutunguhan.

                NAKAKAIYAK.